The Effects Of Violence On Children
March 16th, 2016
Thank you Yolanda Gibson for the request.
The effects of violence on children rages from TV violence, to story telling, to the violence a child experiences. TV Violence and Children go hand and hand from when the very first person got shot on TV. In my day we were watching The Incredible Hulk beating people up and trashing shit. Clint Eastwood movies was always good for a half dozen or so people getting shot. Some professionals endorse that Early Exposure to TV Violence Predicts Aggression in Adulthood. I can’t personally attest to that but in a broader scope I’m sure the studies are valid to some extent. The violence on television has gotten more believable and that has to make a difference as well.
Although a phenomenon know as Disneyfication has happen to many of the fairy tales we grew up with they’ve had some Grimm beginnings. So Are Grimm’s Fairy Tales too twisted for children? I think it’s OK to tell our children these tales. It puts life into a more truthful perspective. Even the circle of life is as dark as it is light. If we raise our children with only the “good” parts of life they’ll be fragile and only the “bad” they be disheartened and depressed. There’s definitely is a balanced to be found so that they’ll be grounded and firm. If we are solid in our existence they will learn these features from us. You may want to filter The Gruseome Origins of 5 Popular Fairy Tales though.
This is where it gets really real. The child who experiences violence at home. We Love Our Children. This is true in way more cases than it’s not true even when there’s violence in the home. Some people don’t know how love should be expressed. Many times the abuser is part of a vicious cycle in which they were abused. I’m fully aware that that can’t excuse the behavior but it let’s us understand what an abused child is up against if someone can’t help pull them out of the cycle. I am the son of an abusive parent and I do not abuse my daughter. I don’t buy into the argument of no physical discipline so when someone tells me the Parent’s Use of Physical Punishment Increases Violent Behavior Among Youth I simply tell them so does rough play. That doesn’t make rough play bad. I actually think it’s healthy. I’ve spanked my daughter twice in 15 years. One time she ran into the road I’m not sure what the other time was for. The point is, minimal physical discipline in a very moderate dose isn’t going to destroy your child’s emotional health. I don’t want every loser with a temper and poor judgement to take this as an endorsement to beat the hell out of their kids. I do want folks who use no physical discipline to consider it may actually be healthy. Sometimes that child just wants to know if we’ll do it. My intention was not personal satisfaction but to leave the well learned impression that I’m the boss and I do have a last resort tool. Please do not try to physically discipline your child if you don’t have the emotional control of a well rounded adult.
50% of the time the child is not the direct victim in a violent home but still there is direct psychological and emotional trauma and it can be overwhelming. The child may absorb and surface aggressive behavior. It may show itself with their peers and then their family when they grow up. I consider myself very fortunate to have come from an abusive background to have the relationship that I do with my daughter. I found myself being ultra passive from the physical abuse. I struggled to find some aggressive behavior at times that I needed to defend myself. I think it must not be too uncommon. I’ve known people who got it a lot worse than I did. It got to a point where they really just didn’t care about the ass whoopings anymore. They were very aggressive. I worked my way from being afraid of my own shadow to an assertive posture. I think some children should be exposed to more violence so that they don’t just shut down when confronted with it. The studies show what they show, just don’t stop thinking for yourself. It could be that you know what your child needs more than a study. This is not advocacy for child abuse and perpetrators of should be dealt with at the limit of the law. Until next time, keep your homes well.
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